“We are all part of the same human condition. The yearning to love and be loved is at the heart of who we are.” - Lynne Twist
The ultimate reason why many people are
confuse about love is the human heart that yearns to love and be loved. This nature
or condition often pushes people to fall in love, and many times with the wrong
person. Many people especially teenagers long for the three magic words and
they will heartily accept it no matter whom and where it comes from.
Some of us have a stronger desire
to love than to be loved. We pour ourselves out on everyone we love, even if we
risk suffocating the object of our affection. Others who are more committed to
loving than being loved show their support and nurture by being submissive,
following their lover wherever he or she leads. Even if it is to a dark place,
the supportive, nurturing, I-am-totally-there-for-you individual loves the risk
of loving no matter the cost.
Then there are those of us with a
stronger desire to be loved. As supportive as I think I am, sometimes my desire
to be loved by my wife is so strong I embarrass myself! When she is preoccupied
with something, with steely focus accomplishing something, if I interrupt and
thereby incur even a slight dismissal, the pout that forms on my lips is
telling! In an instant, it is all about me and my needs and desires. If I were
truly one of those supportive types, wouldn’t I have seen and appreciated his
preoccupation with whatever she was accomplishing?
The human heart can fall in love
with anyone, anytime and over again. As we have seen from the life of Jenny
from the discourse on true love. It is just a story, but it is a real happening
story in the life of many people in the world, thought it might not be exactly
alike. She was not faking her love toward anyone. She was really in love with
all the people she loved. So how do we determine which was her true love? Shakespeare
said, “Love is not love. Which alters when it alteration finds.” Should we
conclude that Jenny never found her true love because she kept changing her love?
In the human heart new passions are forever being born; the overthrow of one almost always means the rise of another. - Francois de La Rochefoucauld
The human heart can fall in love
with anyone, anytime and over again. But it doesn’t mean we don’t have a
choice. We have a choice. If we know how to fall in love, we should also know
how to rise in love. Do we buy all the beautiful dresses we see while shopping?
We do window shop for fun but we contend ourselves with what we have most of
the time. And this differentiates between dog and human.
There is no absolute true love
but every love is true. And there is no room or argument for false or fake love.
If this is so, it is not love in the first place. You don’t have to fall in love
with everyone to find your true love or the right person to spend the rest of
your life with. The human heart is unconditional and has the power to fall in
love with the most hated person in one’s life. For an example, bring two worst enemies,
a man and a woman, and lock them in a cell for life. After a year, you may find
increases in population in the cell. You can argue this example but you cannot
deny the possibility.
Perfection and happiness comes along
to those who wait, make the right choice, and are committed to the vow. The
worst enemy of love is not any third person but the human eyes. The lust of the
eyes is the desire to possess what we see or to have those things which have
visual appeal. But we must always remember, all that glitters is not gold.
The human heart and feelings should
be nurture with utmost care. Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it
are the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23.American Standard Version).
To love and be loved is privilege of the divine…
Puanthanh Gangmei
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